18994 Booklet For Young Brides
Just got my book for my Sexuality class and this was in it. I think I'm putting it in the right section.
To the sensitive young woman who has had the benefits of proper upbringing, the wedding day is, ironically, both the happiest and most terrifying day of her life. On the positive side, there is the wedding itself, in which the bride is a central attraction in a beautiful and inspiring ceremony, symbolizing her triumph in securing a male to provide for all her needs for the rest of her life. On the negative side, there is the wedding night, during which the bride must pay the piper, so to speak, by facing for the first time the terrible experience of sex. At this point, dear reader, let me concede one shocking truth. Some young women actually anticipate the wedding night ordeal with curiosity and pleasure! Beware such an attitude! A selfish and sensual husband can easily take advantage of such a bride. One cardinal rule of marriage should never be forgotten: GIVE LITTLE, GIVE SELDOM, AND ABOVE ALL, GIVE GRUDGINGLY. Otherwise what could have been a proper marriage could become an orgy of sexual lust. Most men, if not denied, would demand sex almost every day. The wise bride will permit a maximum of two brief sexual experiences weekly during the first months of marriage. As time goes by she should make every effort to reduce this frequency. Feigned illness, sleepiness, and headaches are among the wife's best friends in this matter. Arguments, nagging, scolding, and bickering also prove very effective if used in the late evening about an hour before the husband would normally commence his seduction. A good wife should expect to have reduced sexual contacts to once a week by the end of the first year of marriage and to once a month by the end of the fifth year of marriage. Wow. PS-I meant 1894. Goddamnit. |
I've read that somewhere before, though I can't for the life of me remember where. It's interesting to see how much attitudes towards sex have changed since that was written though. I can't imagine anyone now being advised to limit their sexual contact during marriage, quite the opposite in fact.
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Yep. I read this to my BF and told him he should be really glad he wasn't born then.
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If I was born back then I'd never get married anyway. No birth control? Husband has complete control over me? Yikes.
Funny though, not so much here but there is still a stigma over female sexual pleasure even to this day, its odd reading old stuff like this and you can think of examples where it still affects us, even though to a lesser degree. |
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I'm extremely glad that I wasn't born into this type of society. I'm not sure what I would have done, except perhaps refuse to get married by joining a convent, eloping, or something along those lines.
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As the Snopes article said, the language gives away its lack of authenticity. Still a good laugh though, real or not.
But yeah, I often wonder what it would have been like being born back then. I'd like to think that I'd be able to resist social pressures for marriage and childbearing and somehow end up accomplishing something with my pitiful female life. A few of my female ancestors did to a certain extent, but were always pulled back by their male counterparts until the mid 20th century. |
Wow, and this was in as hard fact from my newly updated book. Cripes.
Anyway when it's read with all that extra stuff on Snopes then it sounds unlikely but in the paragraph from the book it sounds alright. Is there a possibility that part of it fabricated and part of it is true? |
If it's real the wording might have been updated for a 21st century audience, or perhaps it's a parody of a real article. It certainly wouldn't have existed in that exact form in 1894.
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Yeah I thought it sounded funny, would they have straight up called it sex back then? Literature back then tended to be vague about it.
Anyway, found this gem on Feministing, it's from 1943, how to hire women: http://7.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_kqa...mdvno1_500.jpg Quote:
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The majority of women I have met have bad manners,bad attitude, don’t know how to speak right, don’t want to hear the truth, they spend too much time chasing rich men for sex and getting pregnant,having a butt load of children and they end up on welfare.
so fuck women p.s. i'm not sexist |
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in the ass!?!!?!
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You sir, are absolutely right. |
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Yes, I suppose for those who have a fondness for anuses.
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