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I don't think people get to choose who they're sexually attracted to or who they have chemistry with.
I think people do get to choose who they live with and how they interact with people.
Sounds like a pretty complex problem. I know it will be hard, but I think you should really set aside some time for a serious talk with your girlfriend. It is hardly fair to keep going in a charade when she is allowed to mistakenly think she's in a relationship with some one who is 100% into her.
There are many different ways to have relationships, and if you've been together for a long time, the fun glow of a new relationship wears off and gives way to deep attachment and familiarity. This happens with a lot of people, and one find's one's self hungering for the adventure of a new relationship.
It boils down to how the two of you want to handle it. Do you keep things the way they are and stay monogamous, do you open your relationship up, or do you part ways and see where the wind takes you?
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