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Old 03-23-2012, 06:33 AM   #3
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So r.ape and abuse are innate male instinct: men can only channel that instinct onto women who don't "matter", rather than learning NOT to be abusive...

With all due respect, I'd suggest your friend is talking bollocks born of r.ape culture rather than human instinct. Sex is a natural urge; abuse is not, as far as I can see. Hurtful domination (like r.ape, or abuse) can be a part of the whole construct of masculinity, but non-hurtful domination - the idea that "women are to be protected and it's your duty as a man to ensure that they are" is just as strong a cultural trope. The form that even traditional and outmoded approaches to masculinity can take vary hugely between different men, depending on various factors: in this case, whether said man is of an abusive bent or not.
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