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Old 03-26-2012, 01:27 AM   #10
Acharis
 
Join Date: Nov 2011
Posts: 729
Your friend is talking shit.

Men (or women or flying spaghetti monsters) **** because:
-They get off on dominating or humiliating someone.
-As a form of control.
-Because they buy into the rubbish that 'no' isn't meant to be taken seriously, or is just a token refusal because someone is willing but doesn't want to be seen as a slut.
- That the rapist somehow has a right to have sex with someone.
- That no doesn't have to be taken seriously from a... non-virgin/sex worker/partner/’promiscuous’ or flashily dressed person/someone doing whatever their mindset decides is ‘asking for it'.


Not because of sexual frustration. If it were simply sexual desire you would act on every impulse no matter where you were at the time and get arrested for humping the person in front of you at the supermarket. Or at least go after someone who is a consenting adult rather than forcing yourself on someone who obviously doesn't want it.

Also people who aren’t “sexy” get *****. Old people in nursing homes, overweight, plain, disabled, children, people in comas, nuns, lesbians get ***** to “correct them”... straight men even **** other men.

Sad to say... Rapists **** because they don't give a fuck about someone's right to be safe in their own body if it happens to be inconvenient for the rapist. And the rapist finds a way to justify it to themselves as not ****.


Supplying prostitutes to 'stop ****' just reinforces to men like your friend that he does have a 'right' to have sex rather than it being a privilege granted by the individual, that womens bodies are there for his entertainment. That there is a class of woman that is there to be used. That womens bodies are a commodity for his consumption.

Trying to throw prostitutes under the bus to protect “respectable” women from being ***** sends a very bad message. In his suggested scenario women can choose between being attacked or being bought, so they better go quietly and choose the second.


(Not to judge all sex work or clients if the workers are happy and safe. And I believe that the client reimburses the worker for services rendered, not that he buys her. But often women in the sex industry can be exploited and commodified, and are vulnerable to disrespect or poor treatment because of value judgments/ the belief that the client has bought the right to do whatever he wants to her.)


Also, your friends' theory presents men as animals with no self control. That’s not true.


EDIT: I've used he/she because historically that's usually been the way it's gone. If you don't like that simply read again with gender neutrals and it still makes sense.
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