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07-19-2007, 03:22 PM
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Join Date: Jul 2007
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Fake people.
I'm really sick of not being able to trust people.
I used to have a group of about 8 people that I would always hang out with.....but just recently, the only other girl in the group decided that she hates me, and effectively turned everyone against me.
Now I have a new boyfriend...and only 3 friends...and the sneaking suspicion that everything is going to happen again.
I don't get how its so difficult to find people to trust. I've never just dropped a friend on a whim.
My loyalty isn't paying off. I need a new plan. How do you guys know when you can trust someone?
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07-19-2007, 03:26 PM
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Join Date: Dec 2004
Location: Cali
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um...just be yourself and fine people who like you for who you are
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07-19-2007, 03:32 PM
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Join Date: Feb 2007
Location: Calgary AB 0_o
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You can't really tell if someone is trustworthy, you have to follow your instincts. I'm pretty sure everyone has made at least one bad decision on who they trust...
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07-19-2007, 03:35 PM
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Join Date: Jul 2006
Location: a russian, vienna-educated, living in the Netherlands. beat that.
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potentially, anyone can be a back stabber, but i guess that doesn't make you feel better?
Look at it this way: people get bored and start cooking up intregues. Be ready for this to happen again and again but don't let it bother you.
actually, I should just shut the fuck up since I am paranoid to the bones.......
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07-19-2007, 03:36 PM
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Join Date: Jul 2007
Location: Brussels, Belgium
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Yeah, trust is something that takes years to develop. It's possible that someone you've just met is completely trustworthy, then go with your instincts like Kimaru said.
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07-19-2007, 03:37 PM
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Join Date: Mar 2007
Location: Canadia
Posts: 1,198
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Post an introduction.
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Holding you tied, holding you tied... and I feel so happy.
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07-19-2007, 04:42 PM
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Join Date: Feb 2007
Location: Behind a keyboard.
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Make me a sandwich.
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07-19-2007, 05:07 PM
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Join Date: Dec 2006
Location: Norway
Posts: 1,446
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Shut the fuck up.
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07-19-2007, 05:46 PM
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Join Date: Sep 2006
Location: A doll house
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if it makes you feel better the same thing happened to me, but I figure everything happens for a reason, and better opportunities await that would not have come up had you still been friends with all those people.
The friends you have now probably will end up doing something horrid but it's okay because friends aren't everything (sorry to everybody on myspace who goes on and on about how their friends are their life) and just learn not to rely on anybody. Enjoy your current friends though, and it could just be the cynic in me.
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07-19-2007, 06:03 PM
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Join Date: Dec 2006
Location: Yew City
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Originally Posted by Tha Duckman
Make me a sandwich.
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Spread the bread and get the mayo. I'll bring the meat.
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07-19-2007, 06:10 PM
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Join Date: Jul 2006
Location: The Icy Forest of New England
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I had the same problem sweetie. It hurts, but it helps you grow into a better person in my opinion. Because then you'll be more likely to act like yourself and find the people that will be good for you. But you have to be patient and you need to take the time to find the true friends who won't do that to you.
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07-19-2007, 07:13 PM
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Join Date: Feb 2007
Location: Behind a keyboard.
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Originally Posted by MollyMac
Spread the bread and get the mayo. I'll bring the meat.
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I think I could love you.
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07-19-2007, 07:18 PM
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Join Date: May 2007
Location: In between the gods of time
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Yeah happened to me too =\
Welcome to life. It's not faire. People are going to fuck with you all the time. There's no way of knowing who's going to trust you and who isn't... just follow your instinct, and if it's wrong, tough luck; but you shouldn't loose faith on people just cause of some bad friends.
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Its white tusks
Through human beings
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07-19-2007, 07:23 PM
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Join Date: Jul 2007
Location: At work.
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"This, above all, to thine OWN SELF be true."
Werd.
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07-19-2007, 09:29 PM
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Join Date: Apr 2007
Location: Canada
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You could try making other friends, completely diffrent from the ones you have. I had to go through something similiar when all my old friends ditched me. I had to find new friends, although it took some time to find them...Anyways good luck with that. Try to find people who are sincere.
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07-19-2007, 09:48 PM
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Join Date: Jul 2007
Location: At work.
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Or just stay away from people in general. People lie. ALL people lie. Especially friends. They have more to lie about so as not to hurt your feelings. Trust no one except yourself. Maybe not even that much...
what the hell was I talking about again?
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07-19-2007, 11:49 PM
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Join Date: May 2007
Location: East Haven, CT
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I can count on one hand the number of trustworthy people I have encountered in my life. Time and again, I've been hurt and stunned to learn that someone I thought liked me as a friend/coworker/girlfriend had been talking shit behind my back. If you observe a person acting friendly to other people and then saying unkind things behind their backs, odds are they'll turn this behavior on you as well.. I chose to remain on civil terms with these fake people, keeping in mind they can't be trusted. It seems to have been the right decision most of the time.... Sometimes people change, and stop being bitchy. Sometimes it's just better not to disrupt your social circle. Some people are useful contacts, even though they're fake. Don't let them get to you, or keep you from reaching out to form true friendships.
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07-20-2007, 01:14 AM
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Join Date: Jun 2006
Location: 37°4N 122°3W
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My loyalty isn't paying off. I need a new plan. How do you guys know when you can trust someone?
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Well, for starters, it helps if they make an intro.
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07-20-2007, 04:42 AM
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Join Date: Dec 2006
Location: Yew City
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An intro has nothing to do with trust. WHy do you want them to make one so badly? It indicates nothing other than a little power trip on your own behlaf that you made them do something.
And Duck, you could love me, but it will be illegal in 37 states. So you know we'd have to do them all.
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07-20-2007, 09:22 AM
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Join Date: Feb 2007
Location: Behind a keyboard.
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It would be worth it for a sandwich.
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07-20-2007, 01:41 PM
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Join Date: Dec 2006
Location: Canada, BC
Posts: 1,949
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I think you should stop trusting people. You don't have to trust just because you are around people.
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07-20-2007, 01:58 PM
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Join Date: Jan 2006
Location: Earth.
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Just stop trusting people? That's terrible advice. And it would lead to a very lonely existence.
Maybe instead of just giving up on people in general, which is completely stupid, you should just test the waters with people, slowly letting them into your inner circle. If they backstab you, they backstab you, and you deal with that when it happens, but don't just not trust someone and assume they're going to hurt you.
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07-20-2007, 04:01 PM
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Join Date: Feb 2007
Location: Behind a keyboard.
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I was attacked by a tofu person today.
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07-20-2007, 04:07 PM
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Join Date: Dec 2006
Location: Yew City
Posts: 2,413
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Did they absorb your flavor?
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I am The Mighty Cooch!!!!!!
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07-20-2007, 04:11 PM
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Join Date: Feb 2007
Location: Behind a keyboard.
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No. It just kind of flopped around a bit, went a bit soggy, said "Fuck this" and ate a prime rib.
It was a strange fight, to be honest.
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