Sex. - Page 6

honeythorn · 04-13-2009, 05:18 AM

I forgot about my first kiss.. just before my 18th I think..*peers into the mists of tiiiiiiime* Haven't had one of those since I last had sex either.

viscus · 04-13-2009, 05:31 AM

So this is the no-sex pity party now?

I kid, I kid...

Breathless Horror · 04-13-2009, 07:02 AM

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Originally Posted by Cicero

I know plenty of people your age and older who haven't experienced all that yet. It's a myth that everyone fucks like bonobos the second they enter adolescence, and those that do often end up with a nice long list of regrets.

Focus on making yourself happy and don't stress about getting a girlfriend, and you'll probably find that someone walks right into your life when you least expect it.

So true it's almost funny ^^

honeythorn · 04-13-2009, 07:24 AM

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Originally Posted by viscus

So this is the no-sex pity party now?

I kid, I kid...

Haha, nah, I'm used to not having it . I really struggle to imagine what it would be like to date someone now though. I can't imagine spending that much time with one person. It used to be a very consuming thought when I was a teenager ( not too surprising really ) but not any more.

Stormtrooper of Death · 04-13-2009, 08:08 AM

I've been single for a while now. I really don't mind it much anymore. Sex is just one part of life and I'd rather be doing something else.

Underwater Ophelia · 04-13-2009, 10:13 AM

Now that I have sex regularly I can't/don't want to imagine what it would be like if I didn't.

But that's just me.
I don't see anything wrong with not being into sex, but I definitely don't get it, hahaah.

honeythorn · 04-13-2009, 10:20 AM

I think about it a hell of a lot, just can't have any yet. It'll be fun making up for the lack when I do though :-P

Underwater Ophelia · 04-13-2009, 10:52 AM

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Originally Posted by honeythorn

I think about it a hell of a lot, just can't have any yet. It'll be fun making up for the lack when I do though :-P

I think it's a damn shame that you're limiting yourself because of your body.
I'm sure there are TONS of guys who wouldn't give a damn that you're overweight, and TONS of guys who are into that.

And tons of girls...hehehe.
Seriously.
I'd fuck the shit out of you.

Mr E Nigma · 04-13-2009, 11:18 AM

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Originally Posted by Saya

TMI: You wouldn't have to ask, doggy style is my favourite position ^_^

;] Same lulz

Yeah honeythorn, I agree with Ophelia... But that's only 'cause I would as well.

But if it's a personal thing that you just don't want to do it in your current state I can understand that.

honeythorn · 04-13-2009, 03:22 PM

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Originally Posted by Mr E Nigma

But if it's a personal thing that you just don't want to do it in your current state I can understand that.

Basically that's it. The thought of a guy's hands on my sides or stomach, or his stomach or any other area touching mine, makes me go cold with disgust ( of myself not him ) my throat's gone tight just thinking about having sex in this current state >.< . When I think about sex, in my head I am NOT as I am now, I'm normal.

RozzVanian · 04-13-2009, 03:24 PM

Aww, thanks guys. That cheers me up alot.

Pyre · 04-13-2009, 10:43 PM

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Originally Posted by Underwater Ophelia

I don't see anything wrong with not being into sex, but I definitely don't get it, hahaah.

Unfortunately, and this I know from personal experience, some are uninterested in sex because of physiological problems. I'd really like to enjoy sex, but my body does not respond well to it, even with frequent stimulation.

It's sad, really. I began masturbating at the age of 9, and until I lost my virginity at 20 I thought for sure I'd be a nympho. How terribly wrong I was and how terribly disappointed I am with my body. The will is strong, but the body is weak.

Sir Canvas Corpsey · 04-13-2009, 11:27 PM

I like horny bunnies, do you?

Underwater Ophelia · 04-14-2009, 09:08 AM

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Originally Posted by Pyre

Unfortunately, and this I know from personal experience, some are uninterested in sex because of physiological problems. I'd really like to enjoy sex, but my body does not respond well to it, even with frequent stimulation.

It's sad, really. I began masturbating at the age of 9, and until I lost my virginity at 20 I thought for sure I'd be a nympho. How terribly wrong I was and how terribly disappointed I am with my body. The will is strong, but the body is weak.

It's possible you just had a shitty partner or a bad experience because you were nervous or something.

How many times since then have you had sex?

Solumina · 04-14-2009, 12:04 PM

It could also be that you are unable to have vaginal orgasms (this isn't as unusual of a problem as most people think), if this is a case then you could still have plenty of fun with oral/manual sex and there are many sexual positions that allow you or your partner to manually stimulate you.

Mir · 04-14-2009, 12:52 PM

I read somewhere that 80% of all women are unable to experience vaginal orgasms. So guys just need to learn to give good head.

Solumina · 04-14-2009, 01:04 PM

hm...that's an interesting stat, not one that I have heard before. From the info I have read it is closer to 60% never experiencing one but only about 15% of women are actually unable to have one but I'm not completely sure as I'm going from memory and don't have the info on hand.

Mir · 04-14-2009, 01:15 PM

Yeah, me too, but I do remember thinking at the time that I better learn to give good head. ha.

Solumina · 04-14-2009, 01:18 PM

Good head is a skill that an unfortunately small percentage of men have

Pyre · 04-14-2009, 01:20 PM

I have been with two people (the second simply to test whether my lack of arousal was due to my first), but I have had sex many times. I am incapable of vaginal stimulation altogether. I get very bored with it very easily, and then I dry up and chafe. The paaaiiin. I am also uncomfortable with oral, and I prefer not to receive it. It makes me feel vulnerable, and I also find it boring, even when I have managed getting off. I have the inability to be truly emotionally close to others, so instead I try being physically close, which is why if I am sexually intimate I will prefer sex or grinding as opposed to oral. I am strange and difficult to please.

Also, I have had the unfortunate luck of being with partners who were too equipped for my body. Girth isn't the issue, but length is. Because my cervix doesn't retract like it is supposed to during intercourse, it really hurts to have sex in many positions I have tried. I usually have to take control because I know my limits, but again, I get bored with always being in control. My friends joke I should start dating Asians.

More information than you possibly ever wanted to know about me.

Mir · 04-14-2009, 01:33 PM

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Originally Posted by Solumina

Good head is a skill that an unfortunately small percentage of men have

We should turn this into a thread about compiling pointers on giving good head. For posterity!

a) You gotta enjoy giving head. I think this one is the most important.
b) Don't jump in. Tease your way into it.
c) Be gentle. Some women are very sensitive.
d) Not all women are exactly the same. You need to communicate with your partner, and find out what works for her the best.

All I can really think of right now. You want to add to that?

Saya · 04-14-2009, 01:34 PM

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Originally Posted by Pyre

I have been with two people (the second simply to test whether my lack of arousal was due to my first), but I have had sex many times. I am incapable of vaginal stimulation altogether. I get very bored with it very easily, and then I dry up and chafe. The paaaiiin. I am also uncomfortable with oral, and I prefer not to receive it. It makes me feel vulnerable, and I also find it boring, even when I have managed getting off. I have the inability to be truly emotionally close to others, so instead I try being physically close, which is why if I am sexually intimate I will prefer sex or grinding as opposed to oral. I am strange and difficult to please.

Also, I have had the unfortunate luck of being with partners who were too equipped for my body. Girth isn't the issue, but length is. Because my cervix doesn't retract like it is supposed to during intercourse, it really hurts to have sex in many positions I have tried. I usually have to take control because I know my limits, but again, I get bored with always being in control. My friends joke I should start dating Asians.

More information than you possibly ever wanted to know about me.

I had a similar problem, I'm a tiny girl and get bored easily, and dry up sometimes and it becomes painful. Thats why lube is such a great friend. I can have a vaginal orgasm but I do find it really difficult, and I'm not sure if its just because I haven't been with anyone who wasn't very good or if I just take a long time (which I suspect but haven't been able to find a guy who can last that long), but a good remedy is a) lube and b) Fantasia parties and sex stores. For example, they sell this thing called O-gel, I think you can order similar products online, its *like* a lube only you put an itsy bit on your clit and it makes you, well, orgasm easily. Even if you're not enjoying the vaginal sex doesn't mean that in the meantime you have to ignore your clit. If you have a sex store in town I'd recommend a visit, we have one called Our Pleasure and the people there are very professional and give great advice about their products.

Of course, I only learned of such remedies very shortly before I stopped having sex -_-* oh well.

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Originally Posted by Mir

We should turn this into a thread about compiling pointers on giving good head. For posterity!

a) You gotta enjoy giving head. I think this one is the most important.
b) Don't jump in. Tease your way into it.
c) Be gentle. Some women are very sensitive.
d) Not all women are exactly the same. You need to communicate with your partner, and find out what works for her the best.

All I can really think off right now. You want to add to that?

Hey, Mir, doing anything later? XD

Mir · 04-14-2009, 01:38 PM

Well, that depends on whether you are willing to contribute to the list. =P

Saya · 04-14-2009, 01:41 PM

Be careful with your teeth?

Pyre · 04-14-2009, 01:41 PM

I live in a college town. There are sex related stores all over the place. I've been meaning to check out the new one called Sexy Suz anyway. Unfortunately, I have no sex partner right now, and being that I am still very good friends with my ex boyfriend I never tell anyone about my personal relations anyway. Keeping such things hush-hush is often difficult, and some people like spilling the beans on me.

I've also considered trying vibrating rings. Any experience with that?

And, unfortunately, I was at one time involved with a guy who almost never gets off, so I'd have all the time in the world with him to try things. Unfortunately he stopped talking to me without just cause. Drats.

Too bad we can't make this read by members only so they won't find these posts >_>