Does anyone meet that one person or people who bashes you about being GOTH? - Page 2

Underwater Ophelia · 05-04-2009, 06:12 AM

Anorexia is more a lifestyle choice than goth, though, haha.

Solumina · 05-04-2009, 10:49 AM

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Originally Posted by Pineapple_Juice

Whuh? He didn't think goth?

I believe that immediately after I left he something along the lines of "why can't you be normal like her?"

Anima_Severem · 05-04-2009, 11:50 AM

I get it from my father All. The. Time.

And I don't even wear makeup or dye my hair at all.

It's just because I tend to be cynical, I sometimes have bouts of depression, and 90% of my clothes are black. And I didn't even pick out black because it makes me look more goth. I pick black because black goes with everything, deemphasizes my figure, and makes me look more professional. (90% of my stuff is black slacks and blazers)

He bases my goth diagnosis on my attitude mostly. I think he's just confusing goth with emo again.

Then again, I DID have a brief emo phase (fashion and music-wise) in high school. I was such a poseur back then.

Being sad all the time/depression, real or fake/fatalism/I <3 death =/= goth. Sure, we tend to be on the darker side but for God's sake we're not like that all the time.

Pineapple_Juice · 05-05-2009, 12:52 PM

I'm not like that at all. I'm upbeat constantly and I'm never serious about anything. Also, death freaks me out. I read Stiff and got the creepy crawlies. "We" doesn't apply. My Specimen CDs tend to not offend, and I've never had anyone shy away from me because Nosferatu can be heard emanating from my headphones.

Mr E Nigma · 05-05-2009, 01:34 PM

I get the reverse generally... I wouldn't consider myself goth. I mean I like Bauhaus and David Bowie. The Cure is okay... but for the most part I don't listen to that music, but people used to label me as such then bash me for it. When I try to simply express to them that bashing something that doesn't exist will forever be pointless... like bashing god, (That one works well on christians, 'cause it makes them think I'm siding with them) or bashing mythical creatures or fictional stories. Say whatever fucked up shit about it you want, it really doesn't matter or mean much in the end.

prophecyofdoom · 05-05-2009, 07:59 PM

One person? Many, many people have given me shit about my appearance, tastes, and lifestyle. I am so, so tired of other people inflicting their unasked-for opinions upon me. I just tune them out now. They are a distant, unpleasant noise in the far background of my life.

drewsilla · 05-05-2009, 08:15 PM

People around here are used to the way I dress. If they don't like it they can suck it.

the-nihilist · 05-05-2009, 08:42 PM

Sometimes people say to me, "I think you should smile more <the-nihilist's real name>", but I just don't feel like it.

Schazmyrrh · 05-05-2009, 09:03 PM

I've had a number of people ask me about my preferences and taste. If I sense that they are looking for a good conversation, then, I actually take the time to talk to them otherwise I just smile and shrug them off. But always it was just 'asking', I've never experienced any bashing or rudeness.

Schazmyrrh · 05-05-2009, 09:07 PM

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Originally Posted by the-nihilist

Sometimes people say to me, "I think you should smile more <the-nihilist's real name>", but I just don't feel like it.

Same here. I actually find it funny when people point out that I look so serious or glum and I didn't even try. I mean, I normally don't go about places wearing a big grin on my face for no reason- I find people who do that weird. But that's just me, I suppose.

prophecyofdoom · 05-05-2009, 09:31 PM

I always get that, people telling me to smile. I loathe it. It's not that I never smile, it's that I only smile when I have a genuine reason to do so. I used to know someone who'd paste a big fake smile all the time when people were looking, and when this person thought no one was looking they'd look irritated annoyed, and then they'd realize someone was looking and out would come the fake smile again. *shudders* I want to be as little like that person as possible. It is not that I never smile socially for the purpose of making others feel at ease in my presence. But if I am troubled, thoughtful, or otherwise distracted I do not need to hide behind a fake smile. Let people ask me what's on my mind, if they want to, but it annoys me when someone just comes up and says "smile!!"

Her_of_the_flesh · 05-05-2009, 10:27 PM

I get it all of the time but on a positive note people also compliment on how goths dress and I guess it is good to hear that sometimes. But usually I ignore, comes with the territory.

Darcnyss · 05-06-2009, 03:49 PM

It's been years since anyone harassed me about my taste in clothing and music, even though I think my current style of clothing and makeup is way more over the top than the years I did get harassed. Go figure.

ArchLich · 05-06-2009, 09:28 PM

"being a goth" is about being yourself. To label yourself pretty much goes against everything the gothic culture stands for. Just do what you feel and speak what you think. Its about self expression and freedom. Usually whenever someone thinks "goth", they think black clothing, makeup, blood, fangs, death, the works. That my friend is a stereotype, and I truly hate stereotypes. So, what is goth? Goth is a culture of individuals trying to fit in a world that doesnt accept them for who they are. We band together to find social serenity.

badteccy · 05-07-2009, 05:28 AM

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Originally Posted by Okami

The time I actually feel happy is when I don't think about "what is being goth?" I mean, it is a lifestyle choice right?

Are you stupid? Subcultures aren't "lifestyle choices", ever.

It's stuff you happen to like, that's all.

JCC · 05-07-2009, 11:49 AM

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Originally Posted by ArchLich

"being a goth" is about being yourself. To label yourself pretty much goes against everything the gothic culture stands for. Just do what you feel and speak what you think. Its about self expression and freedom. Usually whenever someone thinks "goth", they think black clothing, makeup, blood, fangs, death, the works. That my friend is a stereotype, and I truly hate stereotypes. So, what is goth? Goth is a culture of individuals trying to fit in a world that doesnt accept them for who they are. We band together to find social serenity.

No, it isn't, it's about a style of music from the late 70s and the 80s and has somehow taken on an entirely different meaning in the common misconceptions of the alienated teenager.

Malice In Wonderland · 05-07-2009, 11:54 AM

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Originally Posted by ArchLich

"being a goth" is about being yourself. To label yourself pretty much goes against everything the gothic culture stands for. Just do what you feel and speak what you think. Its about self expression and freedom. Usually whenever someone thinks "goth", they think black clothing, makeup, blood, fangs, death, the works. That my friend is a stereotype, and I truly hate stereotypes. So, what is goth? Goth is a culture of individuals trying to fit in a world that doesnt accept them for who they are. We band together to find social serenity.

You're a stereotypical mallgoth kid who has the wrong idea about a music based subculture and is so butchering it with his misconceptions.

Also, the stuff JCC said.

Duane · 05-07-2009, 11:56 AM

There's not many people in this town that even know what 'Goth' is. Most think it's just being depressed, and being a HT Drone.

Ebbhead · 05-07-2009, 05:18 PM

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Originally Posted by JCC

No, it isn't, it's about a style of music from the late 70s and the 80s and has somehow taken on an entirely different meaning in the common misconceptions of the alienated teenager.

<3

Also, see here: http://www.urbandictionary.com/defin...m=goth%20logic

Schazmyrrh · 05-07-2009, 07:12 PM

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Originally Posted by ArchLich

Goth is a culture of individuals trying to fit in a world that doesnt accept them for who they are. We band together to find social serenity.

Why oh why do you keep implying that goths are outcasts and social misfits? Seriously, you make it sound like we're some other life form. I get along pretty well with people who don't even consider themselves goth.