I want the real deal!

[zeronegativeplus]

Allright, so I've had a crush with the same girl for about a year because I really do like and appreciate her a lot.

I've been a real jerk to her in the past because I couldn't help getting drunk and calling her up in the middle of the night to tell her how much I care about her.

But now I've learned my lesson well and I'm not doing that anymore.

The weird thing is I've sensed things are kinda starting to change because she's starting to listen to the things I tell her.

Now I don't know what to do!
Shit man, I really like her and want to make her my girl.
Let me tell you something, I'm eight years older than her.

[Underwater Ophelia]

Uh, you might want to start off by not calling her "your girl." Most girls don't like to feel like they're owned.

[JCC]

Also, unless you're 26 (or 24 in ye olde Britannia), then you're stuffed anyway. And considering that you used the word crush, I'm guessing you haven't reached 26.

[zeronegativeplus]

I dont call her my girl. I call her different names like angel of syren though...

[LadyLucretia]

Originally Posted by zeronegativeplus

I call her different names like angel of syren though...

I can't speak for the girl you're interested in, but if anyone called me "angel of syren" I would definitely laugh at them.

[zeronegativeplus]

Originally Posted by JCC

Also, unless you're 26 (or 24 in ye olde Britannia), then you're stuffed anyway. And considering that you used the word crush, I'm guessing you haven't reached 26.

Allright, maybe it's more than just a crush.
When I say I like her I am saying I like the way she is,
when I say I like the way she is I'm saying I have come to know her.

I'm 27 and she's 19...

[zeronegativeplus]

Originally Posted by LadyLucretia

I can't speak for the girl you're interested in, but if anyone called me "angel of syren" I would definitely laugh at them.

Mystypo

I meant angel or syren.

[badteccy]

Originally Posted by zeronegativeplus

I'm 27 and she's 19...

I seee.....

[Beneath the Shadows]

Originally Posted by zeronegativeplus

Allright, so I've had a crush with the same girl for about a year because I really do like and appreciate her a lot.

I've been a real jerk to her in the past because I couldn't help getting drunk and calling her up in the middle of the night to tell her how much I care about her.

But now I've learned my lesson well and I'm not doing that anymore.

The weird thing is I've sensed things are kinda starting to change because she's starting to listen to the things I tell her.

Now I don't know what to do!
Shit man, I really like her and want to make her my girl.
Let me tell you something, I'm eight years older than her.

First of all, don't call her while you're drunk.

Secondly, if you really like her, just tell her so. While you're sober.

Tell her how you feel. Write it out and e-mail it to her, if you must. And make sure you ask her how she feels about it. If she's bothered by it, leave her alone. And don't just tell her that you will, actually do it.

[msr.iaidoka]

zeronegativeplus,

I hope that she is not a student of yours. If so, my recommendation is that you wait until she is no longer your student before you act else you are risking your career. Also, if you made these calls to her while she was your student you must tread lightly for here on else she makes these know to your superiors.


I hope she is hot for teacher,

Matt

[Nevan]

Originally Posted by msr.iaidoka

zeronegativeplus,

I hope that she is not a student of yours. If so, my recommendation is that you wait until she is no longer your student before you act else you are risking your career. Also, if you made these calls to her while she was your student you must tread lightly for here on else she makes these know to your superiors.

Based on the advice you just gave I'm inclined to ask you a question, but the fear of reprimand for hogging the thread necessitates me to keep this question to myself.

ARGH!!! I just hogged the thread, didn't I?

[delicti]

Originally Posted by zeronegativeplus

I've been a real jerk to her in the past because I couldn't help getting drunk and calling her up in the middle of the night to tell her how much I care about her.

You should consider yourself lucky she still talks to you. Time to move on, man.

[zeronegativeplus]

Originally Posted by delicti

You should consider yourself lucky she still talks to you. Time to move on, man.

What if there's still a chance.

I mean, if she still talks to me, that must mean something or not?

She was my student last term but we've been friends since before,
I met her when I was still a student too.

She will turn 20 in November.

[delicti]

Originally Posted by zeronegativeplus

What if there's still a chance.

I mean, if she still talks to me, that must mean something or not?

The big thing is, are you the one initiating all the conversations? Keep in mind you're still a professor, so she has to respect you, even if it is awkward for her to do so. I doubt she'd snub you outright, if nothing else for fear of backlash.

[zeronegativeplus]

Originally Posted by delicti

The big thing is, are you the one initiating all the conversations? Keep in mind you're still a professor, so she has to respect you, even if it is awkward for her to do so. I doubt she'd snub you outright, if nothing else for fear of backlash.

You defenitely have a point here, I only hope you aren't right!

[Miss Cogs]

Hmm...there seems to be a big age difference. Are you sure that she could be right for you or do you plan on causually dating? Do you want a serious relationship? Judging from most girls, when they are out of high school most of them are not ready for a serious relationship of commiment. Considering that you are older then her, much more maturer, you may want commiment. She may turn you down, leaving you heartbroken because she was too young to consider marriage. But on the other hand, she may not be like that. She possibly could be maturer then her peers and may like the thought of a serious relationship.

I believe that you should wait though until she is no longer a student of yours and out of college, if that is where you meet her. Then there wouldn't be legal matters.

If she's listening to you, then that may be a good sign. It could mean that she likes you and has interest. Whatever your doing, keep doing it. On the other hand, she could just get joy and pleasure of you rambling your feelings to her and has no interest in you at all and is waiting for the perfect moment to slap it all back into your face.

Sorry, but I look at the both side of things.

[Underwater Ophelia]

I say back the fuck off of this chick NOW. Let's get a reality check...you called a student drunk to tell her you have romantic feelings for her...that's not ok.

Let's hope she doesn't just decide to get you in a lot of trouble.

[zeronegativeplus]

Originally Posted by Underwater Ophelia

I say back the fuck off of this chick NOW. Let's get a reality check...you called a student drunk to tell her you have romantic feelings for her...that's not ok.

Let's hope she doesn't just decide to get you in a lot of trouble.

People deserve second chances!

[zeronegativeplus]

Like I said, she is a friend I met at school ever before I began giving classes.... *Sigh*

[Miss Cogs]

Still....now, since your a teacher and she's a student. There really could be some legal matters. I really do suggest you wait till she graduates.

[zeronegativeplus]

I think I will back off for a good while and wait until she graduates and let things cool off.

I wouldn't mind waiting another year if that's what it takes to get close to her.

[badteccy]

Not too sound like an asshole, but you seem very immature.

[zeronegativeplus]

Perhaps I am.

[badteccy]

At 27, that is nothing to be proud of.

[zeronegativeplus]

Originally Posted by badteccy

At 27, that is nothing to be proud of.

I am mature in many ways and in others I'm not.